Podcast, ep 15 The Value of Suffering

Welcome back to another episode of Spiritual Fitness.  We are continuing the conversations around suffering. In our first episode, we discussed the different types of suffering and introduced a spirit hack to help you reframe the event.  In this episode we discuss the reframing of suffering and what is the value of suffering in your life?

Can you find the value in your suffering?  Reframe it and find the lesson.  What is the value this is adding to my life right now?

By talking about these topics, it helps shed light and ease the pain we go through.

Cliché of planting a seed in the dirt, under pressure then it grows into the light.  In a previous episode we discussed having a mindful garden. The concept of us being responsible for our pain and suffering.  The seed you plant is the harvest you reap later.  Seeds find their strength in the darkness and down in the earth. This paradigm can help you have a breakthrough.  You have to feel it all to heal it all!

A lot of suffering in childhood is due to child-like perception.  Innocence and a lack of information can cause a ton of suffering.  A child does not really understand the truth, not using our voice—creates suffering.  Numb it out, numb out your truth.  This cycle does not work.

People may not want to admit that it happened and some people do NOT even want to explore any of the trauma. These pains persist. No matter where you go, there you are.  It goes with you everywhere.

When you start to change your reactions, there may be physical reactions in the body you notice.  When your inner child is concerned about a change, you may feel it in places ex: in the throat, stomach etc.  These can be clues as to how we move forward in a situation when we are growing. Start to learn how to stand in your discernment.

Example of the value in my own suffering: I had the feeling of unsafe and my needs don’t matter. It made me a mother who is acutely aware of those things for my kids.  In turn, my kids never had to feel that way. They knew their voice mattered and we always had family meetings.  I was able to use my suffering to tune into when others were feeling unstable/ insecure and help bring that to light.

More often than not, parents want to shelter their kids from the truth; sometimes this comes up as sharing too much on a negative front.  Everything that goes into a child, is programming whether one realizes it or not.  The soul of a child knows when you are lying.  Find the ways to reframe the lesson in order to give more truth to our kids.

Value of suffering creates change, creates space for you to let go and begin to heal.  Once we open the doors to pain and suffering, shining the light into our darkness we can find our forgiveness.  Imagine it is like a wound on your arm that is festering, you either let it continue the way it is or take a moment to scrub it open, see it for what it is, fresh air into the wound will help it start to heal.

Maybe you choose to stay in your trauma and to stay in your suffering.

Let’s sail together to learn from our suffering, help one another get through it.   Reframe your mindset, as not a personal attack, to separate the ego from the event and look at it from an elevated perspective.