Podcast Ep 19: Communicating Needs
Welcome back to another episode of Spiritual Fitness. We are glad to have you tuning in and listening. You can find us on Facebook under the Spiritual Fitness group. In this episode we are going to continue the conversation on trauma and our perspective on how this affects one’s ability to communicate needs.
Communication is crucial to get what we WANT or NEED.
The real dilemma is that people become fearful to truly, honestly and openly express/share their needs to others.
If you had any trauma in your childhood, it is most likely you have quit using your voice in some manner or another. Either our parents shut us down, manipulated us or guilted us when we looked out for ourselves. We received the message that looking out for ourselves could be dangerous territory.
This behavior can cause so much detriment and regret in relationships. Creating stories about worth, safety and feeling not good enough.
Without using our voice to communicate, we all ASSUME that people who “know us”, especially our romantic partners, should just KNOW what we want. This is foul play on our part and only setting us up for pains within our relationships to others.
Pause for a moment, take that line of thinking into account, do you ever really voice your needs?
WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME you were vocal and upfront about your needs to someone? Regardless, if it is from friends, your partner, your family, your kids, or even at work, have you been able to have the courage to share when you are in need?
The more openly you can communicate your needs from a place of love, you will free yourself from inner turmoil, hardship, and/or resentment.
When we habitually do not express our needs, we can easily forget what they are. Take time and rediscover your own needs. Evaluate how often you take steps in life to care for them.
Take action, reach out, and let’s take the first steps to discovering the greatest version of yourself!!!!